Session 11 Lay Counseling Training last October 17, 2026

 

Key Outcomes

This session focused on Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) — its behavioral and emotional effects in adult life, and practical steps toward healing. The facilitator (Norma Gaston) drew extensively from personal experience and counseling cases to illustrate CEN's impact. A healing framework — Awareness + Acceptance + Direction + Overtime (IAAA) — was introduced as the core intervention model. Participants engaged in discussion connecting CEN to attitude problems, faith life, and interpersonal difficulty.

Decisions Made

• Western interventions (e.g., confronting parents directly about CEN) are not recommended for Filipino cultural context due to enmeshed family systems and likely defensive responses 1
• Emotions are not inherently good or bad — it is the behavior resulting from emotion that carries moral weight 2
• Negative attention is preferable to no attention for CEN-affected individuals, explaining many attitude and behavioral problems 3

Key Effects of CEN in Adult Life

• Difficulty identifying personal strengths, preferences, and interests 45
• Low resilience — quitting jobs, relationships, or courses when challenged 56
• No compassion for self; self-punishment behaviors (e.g., self-cutting, hitting walls) 78
• Critical inner voice overriding positive feedback; fixation on negative evaluations 910
• Guilt, shame, emotional numbness, and a persistent sense that "something is wrong" 1011
• Difficulty with close relationships — avoiding intimacy, fearing rejection, putting up a false self 812
• Alexithymia (poor emotional awareness): irritability, explosive anger, feeling fundamentally different from others 1314
• Poor self-discipline: procrastination, lateness, disorganization, overreacting 1315

CEN and Faith Life

• CEN directly affects spiritual life — difficulty trusting God often traces back to early relational wounds 1617
• Case example: a pastor who could only pray by screaming, rooted in a childhood memory of screaming after an abandoning father — he believed God could not hear a quiet voice 1617
• Knowledge of scripture does not automatically override faulty core belief systems formed by CEN 1819

Healing Framework: IAAA

• Identify — name and journal the specific emotion 20
• Accept — receive the feeling without judgment; discern its reason 20
• Attribute — trace the source: CEN, pressure patterns, abuse, or spiritual issues 2021
• Act — respond to what the emotion calls for, appropriately and assertively 2122
• Healing equation: Awareness + Acceptance + Direction + Overtime — the "overtime" variable is known only to God; healing timelines vary by severity and age of damage 2324

Boundaries and Assertive Expression

• Compassion toward CEN-affected individuals must be paired with clear personal boundaries — Module 8 will address this directly 25
• Assertiveness means expressing feelings so the other person can receive them — not passive, not aggressive 22
• Facilitator's personal example: setting firm household rules with a verbally abusive father while maintaining love and eventual care for him for 7 years 222627

Q&A Highlights

• Q: Can CEN cause attitude problems? → A: Yes — attitude problems often mask overwhelming emotions, insecurity, weakness-concealment, or a bid for attention 31428
• Q: Is being emotional negative? → A: No — emotions are God-given; emotional capacity enhances empathy 2930
• Q: How long does healing take? → A: Unknown; only God determines timing — celebrate small changes as progress 2431
• Q: Does CEN affect faith practice? → A: Definitively yes — soul wounds affect spirit and body; faulty belief systems persist even after salvation 1618

Pending Confirmation

• Core belief system (faulty beliefs formed by past experience) to be addressed in the next session 18

Action Items

• All participants: Submit outstanding reflection papers for all 12 modules — failure to do so may affect graduation 15
• All participants: Begin applying the IAAA steps personally before the next session
• Daisy: Seek Holy Spirit's grace as a corrective emotional experience for her roommate; apply boundary-setting principles from Module 8 2532

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USeP and UB Online Session last October 16, 2026

 

Key Outcomes

An international guest lecture by Elizabeth Neri Fiska (USeP) was delivered to Universitas Brawijaya (UB) students on Philippine international trade, covering trade structure, trading partners, tariff mechanisms, and ASEAN policy. The session also served as the second COIL (Collaborative Online International Learning) meeting, with Dr. Jennifer introducing the ACE Project — a comparative economic analysis between the Philippines and Indonesia — including its three deliverables and timeline.

Decisions Made

• Lecture scope confirmed: Focus on merchandise trade only; services trade and balance of payments explicitly excluded 1
• ACE Project outputs defined: Three deliverables — comparative paper, infographic/poster, and a 2-minute video 23
• Submission deadline: November 23 (Monday) for all outputs, ahead of the November 27 culmination/awarding ceremony 2
• Topic uniqueness enforced: Groups must register titles on a shared Google Sheet to prevent duplicate topics across 26 groups 3
• Zoom room kept open post-lecture for breakout group discussions; students not in the International Trade Course were designated visitors only 4

Philippine Trade: Key Data Points (2025)

• Total merchandise exports: $84.48B; imports: $134.20B; trade deficit: –$49.72B 15
• Export growth: +15.3% vs. 2024; import growth: +5.2% — deficit does not indicate declining exports 5
• Top export: Electronic products at $45.89B (54.3% of total exports) 6
• Top import sources: China ($38.44B), Japan ($10.63B), South Korea ($10.60B), Indonesia ($10.18B — 4th largest, 7.6% share) 7
• Indonesia's ASEAN share: Supplied ~28.8% of Philippine imports from ASEAN members in 2025 8
• Import composition: Raw/intermediate goods + capital goods = ~66.4% of total imports, reflecting productive rather than consumptive import patterns 9

Tariff Mechanics Covered

• Ad valorem tariff: Duty = customs value × rate (e.g., 1,000 pesos × 20% = 200 pesos duty) 1011
• Specific tariff: Duty = quantity × fixed amount per unit (e.g., 10 pairs × 20 pesos/pair = 200 pesos) 12
• MFN rate: General WTO non-discriminatory rate applied to eligible partners 13
• Preferential rate (ATIGA): Qualifying ASEAN-origin goods may access 0% duty; requires rules-of-origin compliance and documentation 1415
• Key distinction: Tariff type (ad valorem vs. specific) and rate schedule (MFN vs. preferential) are separate questions — not additive charges 16

COIL ACE Project Structure

• Paper: Comparative analysis of Philippines–Indonesia economic/trade indicators with theory-based explanation 17
• Infographic: One-page visual comparison of chosen indicators 3
• Video: 2-minute clip explaining the infographic; at least one Philippine and one Indonesian student should appear to reflect collaboration 18
• Evidence required: Accomplishment report with screenshots of group meetings/chats 19
• Communication: Most groups already active via WhatsApp; Zoom breakout rooms used for initial meetings 20

Action Items

• Group leaders: Register unique project title on shared Google Sheet (before November 23) 3
• All student groups: Submit paper, infographic, and video by November 23 2
• Dr. Lina / Dr. Elizabeth / Dr. Jennifer: Evaluate outputs before November 27 culmination event 2
• Dr. Lina: Save Zoom recording 21
• Dr. Jennifer: Open and monitor breakout rooms; broadcast 5-minute warning before closing Zoom 22

Open Questions

• Group 4 had no UB students assigned at session close — assignment gap to be resolved 23
• Not all breakout room assignments were completed due to time constraints 4

Output	Keterangan
Makalah Komparatif	Perbandingan indikator perdagangan Indonesia–Filipina berdasarkan teori
Infografis	Satu halaman, visual ringkas perbandingan indikator pilihan
Video	Durasi maks. 2 menit, langsung ke pokok analisis, melibatkan mahasiswa kedua negara

Session 10 Lay Counseling Training last October 13, 2026

 

Key Outcomes

The session introduced Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) as an invisible force shaping adult behavior, using a case study and a 22-item self-assessment questionnaire. Participants learned that scoring 6 or above "yes" answers indicates CEN, and that its effects — though rooted in childhood — manifest in adult life. The facilitator emphasized that healing is possible but is a long, ongoing process, with full healing reserved for heaven.

Decisions Made

• No breakout rooms from Module 3 through Module 8; replaced with personal, confidential seatwork and reflection 1
• Questionnaire results are not to be collected or shared — participants are not required to disclose their scores 2
• From Module 9 onward, contemporary issues will be discussed in small groups 3

Key Concepts Covered

• CEN is an invisible force: Unlike physical neglect, CEN leaves no visible signs and is rarely recognized — even by those who suffered it 4
• Scoring threshold: 5 or below = no CEN; 6 or above = CEN present 5
• "Running on Empty" (Dr. Jonice Webb) is the reference book for the module; available on Shopee for under ₱200 3
• Counter-transference: If a counselor's own unresolved issues are triggered by a counselee, objectivity is compromised — a core reason self-processing is required 1
• "You cannot pour from an empty cup": Counselors must process their own issues before effectively helping others 2
• Governing scripts: Internalized beliefs (e.g., "I am stupid," "I am not lovable") formed in childhood that silently sabotage adult potential 6

12 Parenting Types That Cause CEN

Narcissistic, Authoritarian, Permissive, Bereaved, Addicted, Depressed, Workaholic, Parent with special-needs family member, Achievement/Perfection-focused, Sociopathic, Parentified child dynamic, and Well-meaning but self-neglected parents 789

Case Study Highlights (Carlito)

• An 8-year-old hyperactive boy sent home with a note for talking back to his teacher 10
• His mother modeled emotionally attuned parenting: listened first, validated feelings (embarrassed, frustrated, hard), named emotions, held him accountable without shaming 111213
• Participants noted the mother's approach seemed "too good to be true" but confirmed it is doable 14
• Key lesson: naming a child's emotion gives them vocabulary to self-regulate in the future 12

Q&A Highlights

• Q (Michelle): How do you distinguish CEN from trauma like bullying?

  A: CEN is caused by significant caregiving adults; bullying is a separate issue. The intake session ("Tell me about your childhood") helps trace root causes. Effects of CEN in adult life will be covered next Saturday. 1516

• Q (Sarah): How long does healing take?

  A: Depends on how hard one works; full healing does not happen on earth. One counselee has been in counseling for 5 years and is better but not fully healed. 1718

• Q (Jonel): Is CEN the same as damaged emotions?

  A: No — CEN is more specific; it is the umbrella under which the 7 pressure patterns and 4 abuse issues fall. These will be addressed in Modules 5 and 6. 1920

• Q (Michelle): Can issues exist that did not stem from childhood?

  A: There are 7 pressure patterns + 4 abuse issues = 12 emotional damage types to be covered in upcoming modules. 1921

Pending Confirmation

• Full breakdown of effects of CEN on adult life — to be discussed next Saturday 22
• 7 pressure patterns + 4 abuse issues → 12 emotional damage types — covered in Modules 5 & 6 19

Action Items

• All participants: Complete the CEN questionnaire honestly; reflect privately on results 23
• All participants: Begin processing personal CEN with God in prayer; do not blame parents 2224
• All participants: Optionally acquire Running on Empty by Dr. Jonice Webb for deeper reading 3